Tai Ji Men Qigong Academy

Wisdoms of Lives

I used to work in a company ranked as one of the 100 largest companies. But when my family moved south, I had to find another job. Luckily, I found a new job with this company in my first interview. So I felt especially grateful when I joined this company. I thank God for giving me such an excellent opportunity, and I am also very grateful to my boss who offered me this job.

My colleagues at my previous job were mostly female, so we could always encourage and help one another when we faced problems, be it family, work, or marriage. But my colleagues of this new job are mostly male. My boss and the managers of other departments are all male. They often talk boldly and haughtily, which makes me feel uneasy. Everyday after work, I ponder how to get along with these male chauvinists. I always felt that they were just making small talk rather than discussing the real issues and ways to deal with them. It is difficult to make real achievements in my work, and I felt quite depressed about this situation.

In fact, many people have kind hearts and they just do not show. This is the answer I got. How? In a management meeting, I was the only female manager in that meeting. At first, I felt awful, expecting the usual unpleasant atmosphere. And as I had expected, all managers took turn making reports of their deteriorating revenue. Everyone had a very frustrated look on his face. All at a sudden, I felt a strong gust of courage ?V We should not go on this way any more.

So when it was my turn to report, I talked in a peaceful, positive, and encouraging way. I said: although I joined this company not too long ago, I believe the company has strong potential. My talk of confidence got my colleagues back on their feet and they went on with the meeting seriously. And I spoke to them in a tone of "sharing": We share good products with our customers. We share good profits with our dealers and distributors. And we share the good achievements of this company with our employees. When I finished my report, I gave a round of applause to myself, which turned the depressed atmosphere around completely.

The chair of the board commented on my report saying: "Very good! We must have vigor before we can win the war." I felt very happy about this comment. I learned that a smile can make us happy, a smile can generate positive momentum in the atmosphere, a smile can encourage people, and a smile can bring more good luck.

Shifu teaches me to look at the good sides of people. And I have gradually learned to cope with people who have good hearts but are unable to show it. Before, I always deemed people without a kind appearance to be a bad person; in consequence, I virtually build a fence between people and me, so that I had no way to make good friendships with others. Now, those who do not dare to discuss their ideas with the president or the chair of board will talk to me first, and seek out my suggestions. So I realize that courage is not hard, as long as I can let go of my prejudice and my pride, now my work is a place for me to achieve anything!