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Love Text

One day, on their way to school, my husband and son ran across the rain, so my husband decided to ride his motorbike back home and drive son to school in a car instead. Nonetheless, my son was late for school because of the rain and traffic jam. So he was not happy with this, and said "We might not be late for school if we hadn't gone back home for driving".

Afterward, my husband told me what happened and he was upset for my son's not being considerate. In the past, I would spare no cliches to my son and put the blame on him. But now, I know how to talk to him in a peaceful and rational way. So I text to my son and said "Driving to school is not the reason for being late. It is because we go out late and you cannot point fingers at anyone. You are the student who needs to go to school, not your father. It is your responsibility to manage the time. Don't treat people who take care of you with your unhappiness and complaint. Remember, we have been taking you to school, not for days, not for months, but for years now. Who else will do this other than the parents? You should learn to see the efforts we put into and try to understand and appreciate. Your parents also need your encouragement." My son gave an apology to his father when he got back home, and since then, he left for school at early time.

I used to worry a lot about the child. I worry about him lagging behind in academic studies, littering around and many other little things. Therefore, I was nagging all the time and the kid was easily irritated. However, this does not help. On the contrary, it only creates more tension and hurts people. Later I learn the wisdom from Shifu and remind everyone in my family to see the intimacy between family members.

Since I became Tai Ji Men dizi more than 2 years ago, I have learned to introspect, appreciate and tolerate. In living with my kid, I also changed my way treating him. I replace nagging with post-it notes and text messages. I now make more good wishes and less worries to trust, encourage and direct the kid towards the right path of life. Once the kid receives the good guidance, he is able to gradually change himself, learn to respect and care and smile.

It is destiny that brought us together in a family. It is a great bless for the whole family to be in Tai Ji Men together. Shifu teaches us "Love is to be felt with heart. We should look inside of us when dealing with everything in life." And it all starts from my own willingness to change. Through reflection and change of thought, we strike the balance between the body and soul. It's like playing pelota, the harder you hit, the harder it rebounds