Tai Ji Men Qigong Academy

The Power of Happiness

I have been a flight attendant for 16 years, although this is a job many girls may long for, I didn’t fit in at all at first with the idea of guest is always right!

I remember once on a flight to Singapore; when I was busy serving in-flight meal, a passenger suddenly said to me: "Miss, did I owe you money? How come you look so upset?" I was very surprised at the moment, but immediately apologized to him: "Sorry, when I am busy doing something, I could forget to smile, thank you for reminding me; maybe I should ask my parents why I was born to be this way!?" Though my quick wit defused the awkward atmosphere, I still felt hurt, and started thinking if this was a suitable job for me? Why did I look so serious? Why couldn’t I smile when I was working? I want to know the reason, but I can’t find it.

Every flight always made me feel exhausted, when I was back home, nothing looks pleasing for me; I accused my husband of anything; spanking my children were common, and then I regret to death. My husband always said: "You are better off flying out there." The opportunity of my life come, my friend recommended me to Tai Ji Men, and it turns out to be a turning point of my life.

In Tai Ji Men, Shi-Fu Dr. Hong, teaches me: No matter what may come, always look at the positive sides of things, because these things are here to help us grow. Because of Dr. Hong’s guidance, and the helps from my fellow sisters and brothers in Tai Ji Men, I gradually learned to reflect on myself, and I realize that I have a sensitive heart and I fear so much of getting hurt. I did not know how to protect myself so I armed myself that no others can hurt me.

In Tai Ji Men, I started to learn to smile, to look at the positive side of everything, to look at the advantages of others, and to think from other people’s point of views; in addition to these good habits, my temper becomes calm and stable through practicing qigong, and gradually good habits become my nature. I started to like the changes of me, and when I change, the once terrible working environment surprisingly turns into a happy place for me. My work hasn’t changed, but I have changed and I have become happy.

One day, when I was serving meals, one passenger looked at me and smile. I asked him: "Sir, why are you smiling?" The gentleman said: "I do not know, when I look at you, I feel like smiling ". I replied: "Do you mean I look funny?" He replied at the moment:" No, it is a happy feeling." Now I realize that my happiness and joy can affect others and make others happy too.

Now every time I go home, the first thing I do is saying "I’m back!" in a very happy tone, so I bring home a happy mood, and start doing the housework. Before, the first thing I said to my husband would be:" Have you cleaned the floor and done the laundry yet?" It made him feel that he is the wife! Now I know I was really unreasonable, but I believe my happiness and joy will compensate for the unfairness he had been through, because I know I will get better and better, and I will make my husband feel like marrying me is finding a treasure of his life.

Now I no longer complain about the environment, people, and things around me, because Shifu teaches me to be responsible for my own life. If I want to learn to be happy, I must look at the positive side of everything; if I want to learn wisdom, I must have compassion for others and help others; after several years of practicing qigong, I know that a happy and joyful me can also bring happiness and well-being to others.