Tai Ji Men Qigong Academy

Spring Has Finally Arrived

I was a child bride since early childhood. However, my pre-determined husband passed away at an early young age. My mother, therefore, tried to arrange a new marriage for me when I grew up. I was full of joy when I learned that my husband-to-be was a teacher. My thinking was that I would no longer worry about bread and butter in life.

It turned out that my husband was a very quiet, and spoke whatever in his mind that hurt my feeling all the time. Rarely did he show his consideration with words. Instead, his words sometimes were quite hurting, like a sharp knife stabbed into the chest. I had to do the cooking and laundering, raise livestock, plow the fields, plant and harvest rice, and take care of the children. After years of hard work with little sympathy, depression was no surprise at all. But I continued to bear all this for the sake of children.

I was introduced to join Tai Ji Men at the age of 55 by my son-in-law. Even though my health is good, but I am a unhappy person. Every time I went to practice qigong in Tai Ji Men, I was very happy and upbeat. Brothers and sisters in Tai Ji Men are kind and nice and treat me like a family member. We chatted and hugged. In addition, we learned so many good things from Shifu. Gradually, my heart was changed. I used to see the problems in my husband and hoped him to change. Listening to Shifu’s guidance, I understood that it’s me who has to change first. Just as my daughter has told me, "If we always remember the bad things, how could we possibly love each other". So I now always try to look at the bright side and to see the good in people.

As a matter of fact, my husband is a very good husband. He does not smoke or drink either. Nor does he have any bad habits. He lives a very simple life. He is not picky either. He spends most of his time with family. I was short-tempered and critical. That’s why I only saw the bad things in my husband, and ignoring the good sides about him.

After practicing Tai Ji Men qigong, I learned from Shifu to "constantly reflect upon myself". I started to see my own shortcomings and realized why Shifu always say "husband and wife are here to repay kindness to each other". As a result, I gradually corrected my bad temper and learned to treat my husband better. And we are getting along much better now.

My husband once told my daughter that "Actually, I love your mom very much". But I never felt it. There was another time that husband said to my daughter, "A good wife is someone like your mom". I was not aware that my husband is always loving me, caring me and appreciating me. But now, I can totally understand his love. And I enjoy talking with him or just being with him. Just a few words from him such as "Be careful" before my going to the field is enough to make my happy and satisfied. The sprig in my life has finally come when I started to see the good sides of my husband.