Tai Ji Men Qigong Academy

Turning a Sad Romance into Growth

I loved to keep things in boxes since I was little because I believe that all memories, either good or bad, will eventually turn into sweet ones. I stored my stuff in a "secret cabinet" among which I cherished the most were my diaries. In those diaries, I wrote down feelings from the bottom of my heart, so I never wanted to throw them away. However, one day, I tore all the stuff in one of the box in which I kept the gifts and letters from a man I loved, and two diaries in which I recorded the memories between us. I did this not because I wanted to relieve my emotion, but because I thought I should let go of the past and become a better self. That is what I learn in Tai Ji Men: "Let bygones be bygones."

The man broke my heart. I was so desperate and furious when I found he didn’t love me as I thought. I could not even shed a tear because the pain was greater than any means I could relieve my emotion. During the sad moments, I always thought "how could he do this to me?" Confusion and grudge occupied my mind. But, at that time, an article on the website of Tai Ji Men Family brought me positive thinking. A sister shared her bad experience in a relationship, but she turned out to be grateful for her ex-boyfriend. Thus, I realized that I should replace the grudge with gratitude because I did learn a lot from this relationship, and he colored my life.

I was disappointed in this love, but instead I learned how to love from my Shifu, Dr. Hong, Tao Tze, Zhang-men-ren of Tai Ji Men. He has been promoting love and peace around the world and influencing many world leaders. I was also deeply influenced by him, so I found that his love and cause are much greater than mine. My Shifu told me to replenish this world with love, so that the luster of love will shine. I told myself the love in my heart will not be limited to only one person, but to all people around the world.

While I still mourned for this relationship, I was about to hold an important event. In the past, I was easily influenced by my emotions. Yet, this time, I thought of what one of the brothers in Tai Ji Men shared before. He forgot about himself while making a charity and culture performance. Hence, I encouraged myself to learn this spirit, and during the activity, I totally enjoyed it without any negative thinking.

Many people fall out of love with desperation and pain, but the experiences can be a blessing in disguise. I believe they are even precious opportunities for growth. I am so grateful that I went beyond the sad romance and found a greater love – to love all people around the world.