Shake hands, my friends !
Jijay Chen 2013-05-30
Before practicing qigong, I was short tempered. My classmates called me a hot-headed girl. When someone touched my stuff, I would shout, hit, and glare at him or her. If they did not play with me, I would cry. Thus, my relationship with the others was bad. Same thing happened at home, if my younger brother annoyed me, I would cry and scream, to let the adults knew. My behavior gave my mom headaches.
Last year, I started practicing qigong in Tai Ji Men, my Shifu told me to change my bad temper, not to angry, but to have a kind heart. Shifu’s words affect me unconsciously in my daily life. Usually, I will recall his reminding me of learning the wisdom of life, being nice to my families, teachers and classmates, thinking of the cheerful things, and forgetting things that annoy me. So, when the elders ask me to do something, I’ll answer yes. Before I would make excues which made the elders and me unhappy about it. Now I’ll calm down, and not cry and scream anymore. Mom says that "now, Jijay understand the adults’ words. She can be communicating with." Thus I am happier when spending time with family, and not getting angry anymore.
The major difference in me is that I can be calm down, not to lose my temper easily. I can speak well and clearly express my ideas. Now, when my younger brother cries and screams, I’ll communicate with him patiently. I’ll tell him, "when you are angry, the one in the mirror is angry, too. You’ll become foolish. When you are happy, the one in the mirror is happy. You’ll make many good friends." These are what my Shifu told me.
In school, I often think of Shifu’s words and remind myself not to lose temper. When I’m to glare at someone, I’ll cover my eyes with one hand. When I’m to scold others, I’ll cover my mouse with both hands. When I’m to beat someone, my left hand will hold my right hand, and tell myself that I can’t beat. Later, I won’t glare at them, beat or say any bad words. The teacher saw me of being good temper and happier than before, selected me as the president of the class, now classmates like to play with me. I am so happy.
There was a time I saw two of my classmates having a quarrel. One of them complained to me. Before, I might not know what to do and would run away. As my Shifu often tell us to be brave, now I’ll be the mediator, take her to the other, hold their hands together, and say that "you must become friends again. If you are always in quarrel, you won’t become good friends." They all laugh, shake hands and become good friends again. I’m happy that I’m brave. I can make the relationship between my classmates better and better. Thus I have more good friends!
