Tai Ji Men Qigong Academy

Happy Marriage Shining Like a Pearl

Being married for three decades is known as pearl marriage which means the relationship is perfectly serene, sending out mild gloss. From my parents, I see the gloss which lights up each other’s hearts. The tough young man no longer hides his tender love; my mother, working as a lifetime teacher, is like a humble child to learn from nature.　　

Father and Mother just joyfully celebrated their 33rd wedding anniversary. My mom sent me this photo. I think it’s very beautiful. Compared with their wedding photos with bachelor’s gown style, the photo of 33rd anniversary shows recognition and happiness of the life partners.　　

My mother resolved not to marry a policeman or a farmer, but at last, she married Father, a young policeman. 33 years have passed. They have been through precious stages of life from getting married, becoming parents, striving for work to retiring. Now, they work together as happy farmers. Mom said that when they were young, Dad’s love letters were read like official documents. His proposal letter went "My colleagues will attend group wedding on January 23rd , the Freedom Day. Let’s join them!" But today, he is a tender man who weeps when seeing touching movies and often sends romantic text messages. 　　

They both married in a way of the very old-fashioned blind date, but they have gone hand in hand all the way in their lives.

Under the guidance of Tai Ji Men Shifu, Dr. Hong, Tao-Tze, Zhao Zi-han’s parents change their own temperaments for each other. Now they both lead a comfortable and joyful rural life, taking care of a happy orchard together.

I am lucky to be their child, and I feel that the happiness has increased year after year because we all have a common Shifu, Dr. Hong, Tao-Tze, Zhang-men-ren of Tai Ji Men Qigong Academy. Shifu taught us a lot of life wisdom, like feeling "love" with our hearts.

Both my parents are upright, peaceful and genial people. I have never seen them quarrel with each other since I could remember anything. In my childhood, my classmates always said that I own a great family which is envied by many people and which only exists in textbooks. I thought the companionship between husband and wife should be so. I had been used to all this, so I never knew that it is so-called happiness.

Their earnest and serious characters also shape some part of my personality. I subconsciously pressure myself to make things perfect. Over these years, our similar personalities made my parents and me suffer a lot. Fortunately, our Shifu has continuously exhorted us to moderate our temper and timely reminded me in my ignorant youth. He surely helps me not only to know more about myself, but also know how much my parents love and care about me.
　　
Their endless love and tolerance are the strongest support in my life. Because of my parents’ willingness to modify their temper with us, they have gradually shown a faint taste, tenderness and humor in recent years. The man who had a tough youth no longer hides his tenderness inside toward his wife and children. My mother as a teacher for most of her life had put down the pointer, and now she learns from nature like a humble child. They now work together to take care of an orchard full of happiness where they do not destroy nature, but only give love and care. They give up their perfectionism and grow fruit in harmony with nature.

"Hold your hand and grow old with you." is the most romantic thing in my mind.