Tai Ji Men Qigong Academy

Making Myself Better

The word "mistress" has become a hot topic and also caused a lively discussion on extramarital relationship since the Taiwanese soap opera "Fierce Wives" was broadcast. I believe every woman does not want her husband to have an affair. Unfortunately for me, my husband does! Six years ago, I discovered my husband unfaithful to me. It came as a bolt from the blue. At first, I avoided facing it. I’ve never imagined he would do that to me. However, it happened, after all and I could not help but to face the fact.

After I got married, my husband and children became the center of my life. For economic reasons, I worked late almost every day. Whenever I got back from work, my children had gone to bed. Only on weekends, could I spend more time with them. Therefore, when I found that my husband cheated on me, I really couldn’t accept it. I asked myself: I devoted myself to the family, but why did I end up with my husband’s unfaithfulness in return? Why me? I thought God treated me too unfair.

Having an affair, my husband asked for a divorce. To give my children a complete home, I refused to sign the divorce agreement. In this situation, my physical and mental conditions was getting worse, and I even had the idea of committing suicide. I eventually had to see a psychiatrist and use antidepressants. From then on, I had been looking for the way to acquire peace of mind, but I could not find it until my younger sister and brother-in-law introduced Tai Ji Men to me.

Tai Ji Men is just like a big family. The members there care for each other. They always make me feel warm. I have never experienced the warmness before. Actually, when I started to get along with them, I armed myself. However, they could understand me and accept me. Their smiles warmed my heart and made me forget my sorrow. Their encouragement instills positive energy to me. With their company, I could calm down. In Tai Ji Men, I have found the balanced way of body and mind as well as the shelter for my soul.

Since I learned Tai Ji Men qigong, my greatest change is to learn the forgiveness. Inspired by my Shifu, Dr. Hong Tao-Tze, I realize the words of wisdom that do not ever punish yourself for someone else’s mistake and that it is more blessed to forgive. I am grateful for my Shifu’s teaching. Also, I appreciate my Tai Ji Men brothers and sisters’ help. Looking back to view my marriage, I think there is some room for me to improve myself. Leaving my divorce behind, by sharing my experience, I help people who had experienced the same misfortune. From my Shifu, I have learned a lot, especially helping others.

It is such a great relief when my mind is opened. Things have gotten easier than what I thought before. I am sure everything has its way out. I am brave now. My family is happy for me that I have changed into a more gorgeous, confident, and cheerful woman. Even though I live alone now, I am not lonely at all, for I have a big Tai Ji Men family. With the big family, I truly feel that I have found a home for my body, mind and soul to rely on. I have turned into a happy woman, knowing how to love myself, how to be myself, and how to make myself better.